(nearly) Wordless Wednesday- Meeting the Easter Bunny!

Today we had the great pleasure of meeting a special frined of mine, the bringer of all things chocolate, the symbol of new life and all round good guy- The Easter Bunny!

Who knew that only 4 days before his schedule heats right up he would be hanging out at a local shopping centre.

His helper was very lovely too, making sure he didn’t careen into any unsuspecting children. She was quick too, managing to jump out of the picture just in time.

Unfortunately, this pic doesn’t show the look on Smidge’s face- a blend of horror and intrigue! Hehe, well he came out smiling in the end, especially when he realised the little egg he had been given was chocolate!

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Wordless Wednesday – Swing

This is currently the little one’s favourite activity.  She has to swing every day when we drop her sister off at pre-school.

International Women’s Day

International Women’s Day is today, March 8th.  I thought it would be nice to celebrate by looking at some inspirational women.

RitaThe reality is that the best and quickest way to decrease population, therefore decreasing environmental problems and increasing standards of living, is to educate future mothers.  The more women know, the more they empower themselves and take control of their reproduction and production.  There are many Ritas who have had the guts and opportunity to educate themselves and develop their own voices, but there are many others who need and deserve help and support.

Benazir Bhutto, Mary Robinson, Mary MacAleese, Corazon Aquino – A sample of the women who have reached high political office.  We struggle to get equal numbers or rights in parliaments, it is inspirational that some women can reach the highest levels.

Marie Curie – Of course I have to have a scientist in here!  She worked with her husband in a little shed doing hard physical labour to process ore and isolate radioactive elements.  There were actually many woman scientists at the time but they were only credited with the data collection and illustration, not the qualifications and theories.  Marie Curie was an exceptional woman who had the good luck but also the tenacity and brilliance to be recognised.

Jane Austen – Such acute insight, psychology and reflection in such an unassuming package.  Read her books.  Think about them.  Marvel how well she understood people, the depth and complexity she manages with seemingly simple subjects.  And above all, enjoy them and introduce her to your daughters.  She’s still around 200 years later, somehow I don’t think Stephanie Meyer will be.

Mothers of children with special needs – Mothering is the most important and toughest job there is.  How much tougher it must be with a child who has extra needs.  How much tougher to try to be fair to other children.  How much tougher to find time to look after yourself and your other relationships.  I have no doubt there is also so much joy and love, I don’t see it as a constant sacrifice.  And I am certain there are bad days and things they don’t get right and things they feel bad about or wish they hadn’t done.  But I am humbled by women who do something harder than the thing I find the hardest – mothering.

Breastfeeding Counsellors – I’m sure they don’t always get it right.  I’m sure there are times when personality is wrong, or they make a mistake, or their answer isn’t what the woman ringing wants to hear, or maybe there is no answer.  But mothers of young children who volunteer to answer phone calls at 2am purely to support other mothers are very special women.  As women we have a tendency to pull each other down or not value each other enough.  Volunteers of all types, and especially volunteers who are there for other women, are inspirational.

Who inspires you?

March Goals

I just got this great idea from the Planning Queen.  While I have a to-do list with a timeline on it, it’s very specific.  I think publishing the broader things I’m hoping to achieve in March will help remind me as well.

  1. Make some one-on-one time with the big girl. The little girl gets some now because of preschool, but the big girl is missing out.  And they both get Daddy time with things like sport, but I need to make some time for just the two of us.
  2. Keep commenting on other blogs. I admit it, I’m a terrible lurker.  But I know what a thrill I get when other people comment, so I’m trying hard to engage and comment thoughtfully.  Part of this is to answer emails and reply to people who comment for me – I try to reply on the blog, but I think I need to start emailing people as well.
  3. Get the Science@home redesign done. I have a tendency to get something 90% there then slack off.  I’ve done a lot of work on the new site design, now I need to finish off the last bits and get it up there.  (BTW I have one free advertising slot still available if you want to contact me.)
  4. Plan my posts further in advance. I think I can keep up with everything, but at the moment I’m planning week by week.  A schedule will let me organise it a bit better and get ahead.
  5. Sort the clothes. The house is slowly coming under control, next on the list is the clothes – what we’ve outgrown, what needs to be stored, passed on or binned.  Finding places to put them all!

I think that’s more than enough to keep me busy and establish some new habits.  What are you going to concentrate on in March?  Add your goals and next month we can review them and see how we did.

13 Me’s

Yes it should be Mes, but that looks really weird and would confuse you as a title.

  1. Mum to two
  2. Science teacher
  3. Evolutionary human biologist
  4. Resident of a remote town (3500 people, 5 hours from the nearest town)
  5. Yeller (and sometimes thrower) when frustrated
  6. Wannabe sewer (that’s with a sewing machine!)
  7. Newbie machine embroiderer
  8. Military sci-fi reader
  9. Lover
  10. Not-so-closet writer
  11. Dreaming of a PhD (or DEd, or DTeach, I’m not fussy.  The snob in me would love a DPhil.)
  12. Extended breastfeeder
  13. Supporter and sounding board

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Wordless Wednesday – Negative

I’m used to thinking my daughters look very different.  Then someone came back to playgroup who hadn’t seen us in a couple of years, and her comment was – The little one looks just like the big one used to but with the opposite colouring!  And looking at this photo, I can see it.

I don’t want my kids to be nice

or good.  Definitely not.  You see ‘nice’ and ‘good’ are not actually nice and good things to be.  They’re about oppression, and definitely a feminist issue seeing most pressure to be nice is on, and comes from, women.

How can I say this?

‘Nice’ is the woman who is working herself into the ground because she can’t say no to another job.

‘Good’ is the little girl at the back of the class who’s being pinched, but won’t say anything because she’s been told to be quiet and taught not to make a fuss.

‘Nice’ is biting your lip while people say things that are rude or nasty.

‘Good’ is allowing other people to judge my behaviour, not myself.  It is living in a constant guessing game and being scared to do anything in case I get it wrong.

‘Nice’ is not standing up for yourself, and putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own.

No.  I definitely don’t want my kids, and especially my daughters, to be nice.  And unfortunately they, and I, will almost certainly cop criticism for it.  But I’d rather be criticised than bully my own children.

There are other things far more important (in no particular order).

  1. Polite – especially when you are going to disagree with someone, it’s still important to be polite and give them the same rights you expect.
  2. Kind – being kind is completely different to ‘nice.’  Kind is telling someone (politely) when they’re hurting other people, ‘nice’ is letting them get away with it so you don’t upset them.  Of course it includes all the other types of kindness, being helpful but with limits.
  3. Assertive – very different to aggressive, but it seems to be so rare they get confused.  But we all need to be able to stand up for ourselves.  How can the world change if we allow injustice to continue?
  4. Assertive for others – I wasn’t sure what to label this, but sometimes we need to stand up for others too.
  5. Compassionate – An important one, but hard.  I can be compassionate and sympathetic, which means supporting someone and feeling for their situation.  But it also includes being kind and calling them on it if necessary, not letting them get away with things.  As an extreme example, we all know about the cycle of abuse.  A child who is abused definitely needs our compassion.  But if they grow up and abuse others, are they no longer worthy?  To me, it’s not compassion if it comes with limits.  It doesn’t change, they are still deserving of our support and our understanding, and still need us to call them out on what they are doing wrong.
  6. Questioning – I don’t want them to accept something purely because it comes from authority.  Of course, knowing when to question is the trick!
  7. Curious – This is a source of so much joy, and I want them to have a joyful life.  Discovering, investigating, noticing what is around them.
  8. Reflective – Know thyself!  So much of what we dislike in others is a reflection of ourselves, I want them to be constantly thinking about what they have done, and thought, and said, and how it impacts on others.  Be open to criticism and willing to change, if they think the criticism is right.
  9. Generous – How can we live together as a society if we don’t help each other?
  10. Persistent – Don’t give up, keep trying.  Whether it is to understand something, or finish, or find a new friend, or understand why on earth people do that.  And don’t retreat into your comfort zone.
  11. Independent – Be able to stand on your own.  It doesn’t mean you have to, but if you do you’ll be OK.
  12. Confident – This is about self-worth.  About knowing that your opinion and experiences are as valuable as other peoples’.
  13. Gracious – Pick your battles.  In spite of being confident and independent and assertive and reflective, you don’t have to have the last word.  There are times you will never convince others, even if it is hurting them or someone else.  So have the grace to withdraw and allow them to continue.

Of course, I would absolutely love them to have wisdom, which is how you know if you’re doing all the rest!  But I think that one will take a lot of time and experience to develop.

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